The first five years of
my marriage were like heaven for me and my high school sweetheart. He would
pamper me with gifts and really adored our three year old daughter. However, this
was soon to come to an end.
My husband suddenly fell
in love with a younger woman. He did not hide the affection he had for her. The
two love birds would spend hours talking to each other while l listened in
silence. Their love took over our marriage when he would bring his girlfriend
home for a sleep over. They would literally displace me from the bed that we
bought together and spend the night in our matrimonial bed while I cried myself
to sleep in the spare bedroom.
Suddenly, he started
throwing tantrums when l confronted him about the issue. He started clapping
and punching me. At one point l remember he shoved my head inside the toilet
chamber and said l did not need to drink any water since l had already taken
water from the chamber. He started shoving his whole hand inside my private
parts as punishment for questioning his authority.
As the situation
worsened, l decided to seek legal help from a local women’s organisation who
legally represented me in court. I finally managed to get a divorce from my
husband. I have since adjusted and I am taking care of my daughter who is now
six years old. He also has regular access to see our child but when l look at
him, l reminisce on the horrible way he treated me. Never in my life did l
think l would survive such a situation. I am a liberated young woman who after
going through such a traumatic experience managed to pull herself up. I
therefore encourage young women to face their different situations with bravery
as there is always a way out.